Some time ago I heard something beautiful from a video on Anandamoyee Ma. A female devotee expressed that she wants to devote her life to God, but is unable to do so because of her commitment to her family. Ma asked her if she can leave the family for God. The devotee said she cannot. Ma then said something very beautiful, “To jangal me baithkar i jangal saaf karna shuru karo.” Literal meaning is start clearing the jungle while being in the jungle. Our Guru Maharaj said the same thing as well.
The inner meaning of what she said is we can clear the burden of our past karma while being in this karmic world. We need to learn how to do all duties to everyone without getting involved in it. The word ‘duty’ itself carries this essence. The moment we consider we are doing our duty, we automatically feel this is something that we are doing because we are supposed to do it; the personal involvement vanishes. Now the tricky part is to do the duty and to direct it towards God at the same time. There comes the confusion. This ‘bhav’ (mental state) is incomprehensible to most of us. We are so shrouded with ‘maya’ (worldly illusion) that this concept becomes the most difficult thing to understand whereas this is the first thing that comes naturally to all self-realised people. For rest of us we need to keep praying to God so He blesses us to get rid of this frame of mind of ‘me doing this’ and ‘me doing that’.